Threesums or moresumes
There are two scenarios, a planned and unplanned,
Unplanned is usually as it just happens there is an obvious
mutual attraction and no one has time to think (second
thoughts) and get cold feet.
Planned is the more usual case where a couple finds a third
person, either via a social friend or via net/ magazine.
Usually there is an expectation by all parties and when
there is a disappointment the whole experience is then
deemed bad.
There is so much to get two people together its even just
so much harder with 3 or even more! This is why my previous
partner and I liked parties, instead of endless and usually
fruitless searches with a lot of mismatching we could meet
30+ people in one go and either organize to meet another
night or if everyone was in the mood have some fun.
The major reasons threesomes fail can also, poor performance
by one or either party, poor hygiene, lack of manors, failure
to disclose information; other stresses e.g. kids or tax.
We had many wonderful experiences when we better at sorting
the people and unfortunately this means just going with
people you dont like until you know what you do want!
There is nothing better than a group who really get down
and have uninhibited fun, I cant imagine being in my 70s
and saying I should have tried that! Accept people for who
they are and get into it.
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