transgender

Need Opinions, esp from Men

Hi all!

I've posted about this on the message board a while ago, but I'd like to get the opinions of some people I respect <only kidding!!>. If you've seen this before, please forgive me but this has really been on my mind.

Over the summer I went to the doctor and they found something that necessitated some intense surgery. I had a couple of minor complications that were more cosmetic than dangerous. I am now the proud owner of a scar that runs from about 2 inches above my belly button all the way down to, well, you know. In addition some of the surrounding skin is also darkened and slightly chapped. (You won't believe how much I miss my brown, round belly!) I know intellectually it probably doesn't look as bad as I think it does but.....

I'm happy to have my health but given the type of situation I'm looking for (An "F" buddy as opposed to a more romantic relationship) When should I mention this? I don't want to surprise someone. When I mention it should I explain the why or just say, "oh I had surgery." I'm really interested in hearing from the guys (and any bi ladies) on this but anyone's input is welcome.

The friends I had from before have all been great about this and don't treat me any differently sexually, but I've been exchanging email with a couple of men who I'd like to meet and I kind of nervous about how to bring my scar up.

I can honestly say that this is the first time in my life I can recall being *this* self conscience about my body and I'm just not sure what to do.

Oh, the one good thing about this? My dr says that I should try to have sex 3-5 times a week. Woo-Hoo! I really need to get to work :)