To Make Lemonade, Star With A Bag Of Lemons.
Sometimes, though not too often, we see articles, questions,
or advice posted that amounts to thinly disguised (if at
all) whining. People often complain about offhand rejections,
misleading posts, or critical contacts. I see, too, those
posts about being older, or disabled, or broke, or misunderstood,
or plain looking, that speak of how thr writer is so disadvantaged
by those things, and bewailing his or her misery.
This is not necessarily a criticism piece, but an encouragement
piece, if you can accept it as such. When you wallow in all
these things, you may or may not be justified in your feelings,
but you are not helping the situation with a self-pity party.
There is no harm in posting about these things. Most of the
time, others who would never write and post anything are
affected by the same pains, fears, doubts, and discouragements.
It helps to know we are not alone.
No, what I am trying to say is, how are you using these things?
If you wallow in the agony of them, they will make you look
like a whiner and a n emotional baby. But when you acknowledge
them and say, "Here's what I have going on and
here's how I'm getting past it, " you strengthen
both yourself and others.
Everyone has problems of some kind or another. If you haven't
yet, you are young and you eventually will. If you are my
age and think you have had none, you are either a liar, in
denial, or are blessed with an extraordinarily positive
outlook. But I tell you today that problems can make you
stronger, faster, better.... kind of like an emotional,
psychological, and romantic $6 million man (LOL). Finding
and identifying weaknesses in our armor enables us to do
some self-education and self-improvement that will make
us better. Confronting the true nature of disadvantages
andmisfortunes gives us a chance to find other things we
can emphasize and build up about ourselves to make us more
desirable to others. In the end, we can be more than we wanted
to be, since problems fixed will be added to new skills and
qualities acquired. People will also be drawn to a more
positive attitude in us when we quit bemoaning our deficiencies
and just accept them as personal traits.
That is the other thing, of course. Learning to accept things
as they are and being at peace with it will give us serenity,
stability, and character. Those qualities always make
you sexier and just plain more enjoyable to be around. That
means more people are apt to want to know you.
A sense of self worth and self-confidence are just like
a good, cool drink of perfect lemonade on a hot summer's
day. They come from a sense of pride and victory at overcoming
the obstacles before us. But before you can have the lemonade,
you have to accept the sack of lemons
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